More About Gaslighting & Updates!

While working on my post for next week, I came across this video on the Youtube Channel Psych2Go. While I talked about Gaslighting on my blog before, I thought coming back to it might be a good idea-- and this video highlights some things I did not go over in my post which you can find here! As Psych2Go says, "anyone is susceptible to gaslighting, and it is a common technique of abusers, dictators, narcissists, and cult leaders." Gaslighting is a cruel and often undetected form of mental and emotional abuse, and it's not always easily spotted. Please take a few minutes to watch this video, and if you haven't already, go read my post on gaslighting! It's a topic I got to know personally, and something I hope to help prevent in others' lives.

On a more personal note-- I'm excited to say I will start working with the teen group at my new church! This is a great opportunity to let teenagers know about abuse and help those who might be going through abuse in relationships. This is a real blessing for me, and I am so excited to get started.

If you know any organization (scouts, church, etc.) that would like to have me speak on Teen Dating Abuse, please contact me through my website here with your email address. To keep up with updates on this blog please feel free to hit the subscribe button in the top right corner to be alerted to new posts every Monday. Have something you would like to know more about in the future? Leave a comment and I'll do my best to answer right away! Remember, the first step in solving the problem of teen dating abuse is awareness!

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