A Little About Codependency

Happy Thursday everyone! This week is pretty busy for me with my courses picking up and trying to prepare for graduation in May (already), but I still wanted to share something. I have been wanting to talk more about codependency and being codependent. I think that this video by SciShow Psych explains the basic points of codependency in a relationship rather well, and I really wanted to share it with all of you.

Codependency refers to a certain amount of attachments and behaviors, and according to SciShow Psych, it is also referred to in three other ways: relationship dependency, emotional dependency, or obsessive love. It is also referred to by another term, which I have used before-- addictive love. If you would like to read my previous post, click here! This video talks about things I didn't get to touch on, such as the Love Attitude Scale, which is something both interesting and, I think, important as it is supposed to be able to tell a person if they are codependent. This video is really worth watching, and I hope you'll take time to watch and share it! You never know who might need to see this to realize what's happening in their own life. It could make a big difference.

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