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I've always been someone who likes the visuals of videos, so while I'm getting prepared for my pageant and getting into the swing of school, I thought I'd finally show this one! It was made by NoMore.org which is a website campaigning against sexual assault and domestic violence-- it has several good resources I look forward to reading and sharing in the future.

One of the things in this video that really stuck out to me was the actual title "It's Just Stress." I feel like that is such a common excuse made for abusers-- they're stressed, of course they're acting like this. In the video, the girl says something along the lines of 'his coaches push him, his parents push him, his teachers push him-- so he pushes me.' I remember thinking similar things, though this video does handle more aggressive physical abuse than I was subject to. I remember thinking 'he's being mean to me because he's angry with his parents' or his teachers or friends or anyone... But the thing is if somebody loves you, they won't take their anger out on you in that way continuously. If somebody loves you, they won't put their hands on you in anger. There is no 'right time' to break up in an abusive situation-- the time is now.

To those of you reading, let's spread this video like wildfire and help teenagers who think 'this is just what love is' realize that it is not love at all. It's abuse. Let's speak up, and stand tall, and put a stop to teenagers being victims of their significant others. Let's say 'no more.'

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