The Story of Another Survivor

The Story of Another Survivor - Ted Talk

Emma Murphy isn't an example of teen dating abuse, but she is a survivor of domestic violence-- and her story tells so much of speaking up against abuse. That's why I want to share it.

I've talked before in one of my first blog posts, Grow Flowers Raise Voices, but it's about time to talk about it again. As Murphy says in her video, "We all know of somebody who has been through domestic violence," and that makes talking about it all the more important. People who are going through this need to hear a voice of encouragement, to know things get better, and to know it is time to leave their abuser behind.

So once again, I want to call out to any other survivors to raise your voices with me. Our stories can make a difference-- and I have seen the results. We have the power behind us, to help those are still victims and to make those around us aware so they'll see the signs before falling into an abusive relationship. Remember: the first step to prevention is awareness. The only way people will know is if we stand together and make ourselves known. And to any victims, anyone who is recovering, you are not alone. A community of support is out there, and things will get better.

This coming Saturday is my pageant, another chance to spread the word about dating abuse to a diverse audience of college students-- and whoever else is in the crowd. I may not be able to say much in a minute on stage, but even a few words can make a change. And who knows-- if I'm able to move forward, I'll have more opportunity to get out in the community! Keep me in your prayers in this coming week, it's going to be busy!

If you know any organization (scouts, church, etc.) that would like to have me speak on Teen Dating Abuse, please contact me through my website here with your email address. To keep up with updates on this blog please feel free to hit the subscribe button in the top right corner to be alerted to new posts every Monday. Have something you would like to know more about in the future? Leave a comment and I'll do my best to answer right away! Remember, the first step in solving the problem of teen dating abuse is awareness!

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